Or sit her on the washing machine in the bathroom. Above all, forget porn—the road to your partner’s orgasm goes a very different way than through a hard pounding. What we can promise, though, is that your darling will definitely come back for seconds the next day.
It starts in the mind—and with knowing that you truly see her
She won’t start longing just because you show up at home. Women generally need to feel safety and support from a man. If she genuinely melts the moment she sees you in the doorway, you’ve won. You’re THE ONE!
But if she’s wound up and argumentative, you’ll likely just irritate her; you’re certainly not a symbol of safety to her in that moment. More like the prospect of yet another problem on the horizon.
So step one is this—she must see in you a man who can save the world. Her world. Her entire world.
Point one accomplished.
I’ve got you in my sights, my dear!
Notice her. Give her light, tender touches. Kiss her. Just because—without sexual context. Let her see that the kiss feels good to you too, that you draw energy from it.
Spanking and a few cheeky jokes are fine, but for a later phase. They get old quickly anyway, so… better go for a stroke through her hair, a hug, a close press.
If she loves your voice, use it. Yup… shamelessly exploit it and whisper into her ear a promise of evening delights. One detail is enough!
All of this gradually accumulates in her like savings in a bank—and by evening, she won’t be able to wait for you.
The brain is truly the biggest female erogenous zone.
Fantasies
Talk about them. Women very often have fantasies they’re afraid to act on. Let her be, for a moment, the woman she wishes to be. In her mind… just like that. Submissive, dominant… with toys or without them.
Ask her what actually arouses her. Including what she would probably never want in real life, yet still thinks about now and then. Maybe pet play?
Sex in a dark forest or in the dark cellar of a rented cottage? Looking forward to something like that for weeks? Oh yes, we girls are into that! Or take inspiration from our tips for unusual places to have sex.
The body map
Okay, we’re finally at touch. Tension is rising, so voilà—these are the winners in the contest of women’s erogenous zones. Most men go straight for the clitoris or nipples.
Mistake. The real pleasure map starts elsewhere:
- Neck, because that’s where the mind starts to unwind
- Back, lower back, because that’s where bodily awareness awakens
- Shins and insteps, because that’s where the lower belly starts to tingle
- Inner thighs, groin folds, because arousal is already happening there
- Lower belly, because by then she’s ready to go wild
- Palms, wrists, elbows, because these places are often a greater symbol of intimacy for a woman than the pubic area itself
A woman’s arousal is like stoking a fireplace. Let each log catch slowly, and only then add another. Too much at once will overwhelm and smother her…
Warming massage oils are absolutely perfect for this kindling. The strawberry WARMUP tastes divine. Or passion fruit—or another flavor.
And you can amplify its effect with your breath, which is one wild ride. Just feel what it does on the back, on the neck. And what happens when hand and breath travel all the way down?
Let’s go for the orgasm
For many men, a woman’s orgasm is proof they’re real studs. But women can fake it quite often. They do it even when they’re really not into it and just want to tire their guy out so they can have some peace. You definitely don’t want that. So how do you know you’ve turned her into a totally relaxed, satisfied woman?
Forget moaning; forget vaginal contractions. Those can be faked. Superficial, rhythmic—the man won’t tell. A vaginal orgasm, however, is truly stronger; the contractions are much more intense, coming from deeper within. Some men who are inside at that moment can even feel them as uncomfortably tight. Not a gentle massage by the vagina, but a solid, masculine grip. Out of breath, sweaty, spaced out—you’ll recognize that in your partner. Yep, that was a job well done!
But for orgasm, a woman needs time and a sense of safety. Without that, you’ll never be the one she gladly surrenders to—with full nakedness, intimacy, and passion.
“I want to try toys on you!” A top-tier line, gentlemen
Mini vibrators for the clitoris, satisfyers, stimulators, or dildos and vibrators… mini eggs controlled by phone are great too. In fact, they’re a great foreplay for the whole evening.
If you’re not afraid of toys and really bring them into play, your stock will skyrocket. You’re opening several new levels of pleasure for her—yourself!
So go ahead and suggest one of our new arrivals—you just want to try it on her. Because you’re curious, or because you want to see her even more aroused than usual!
When you then pick up something that’s primarily meant for solo girls’ play and tease the hell out of her with it, trust that next time you promise it, she won’t be able to wait for evening!
Yes, we’re talking about Womanizers, which are tailor‑made for this. But try it on yourself first—the power is considerable, so don’t cause your partner pain through inexperience.
If you want to fire up the G‑spot and give her a vaginal orgasm, don’t be afraid of toys. They’re reliable—and you’ll be the one setting the pace.
Forget porn—and above all, don’t do this!
What you see in porn doesn’t have to hold in real life. So beware of these mistakes men often don’t even realize they’re making—because in porn they look like something excellent that makes women swoon with pleasure.
No, they don’t swoon—and many women actually dislike it.
- Moves that are too fast; thrusts that are too hard (only tolerable in high arousal or by agreement)
- Switching between openings (you’ll seriously set her up for an infection—it’s not hygienic)
- Direct penetration into the anus (porn actresses are prepped and relaxed beforehand; otherwise, it hurts like hell—and you can seriously injure her)
- Rough sex (only by agreement; as a surprise it’s highly inappropriate)
So leave porn in your head. For inspiration, you might only consider “porn for women” types of videos. There you may sometimes find good how‑tos—say, for oral or feather‑light yet skillful finger work.
Watch her—she’ll show you
Watch how she breathes. How she tenses, how she looks at you. How her muscles contract and release; how she tilts her pelvis toward you.
Everything she likes will be revealed by her body. You have to be a keen observer. Don’t rush; notice the details of her breath, her body, how her intimate area softens and opens. Let yourself be absorbed by her arousal—and remember that every woman is different.
What turns one woman on, another may hate. There’s no universal manual.
And in each phase of the month, women like different things. Sometimes they’re fierce tigresses; other times they need only gentle rocking. Ask her how she feels… what she’d like. And give it to her. It’s the straightest path to the title “lover of her life”.
Desire is the foundation of a great orgasm
The basis of beautiful lovemaking for women is desire. Spend eighty percent of your time cultivating desire in your partner. Then the twenty percent in bed will be so spectacular you won’t regret a single caress or smile.
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