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Slapping on the ass and the idea of full devotion to a partner is a pleasant affair for many people. The same goes for using pegs, and no, we don't mean those for clothes.
If you are getting closer to ideas that may not be 2x conventional, then welcome to the fun world of BDSM, where the only one who sets the boundaries is you.
What is BDSM?
The specific limits of BDSM are not determined by any manual, but only by what is pleasant to you and who you are playing with. However, for a better orientation in terminology, we will explain the abbreviation BDSM at the beginning.
BD - bondage and discipline
Bondage, submission to a partner, restriction of movement
DS - dominance and submissiveness
Relationship parameters, where one sets the rules and the other follows them.
SM - sadism and masochism
Causing and accepting pain, physical punishment.
1st Step to BDSM
Am I a pervert? In other words how to start with BDSM
Reading this, is the first step in admitting that you are interested in the topic.
Communicating in a relationship can be challenging, but at the same time, you can solve all problems.
Opening up to BDSM can be tricky and scary for many. If this topic is taboo for you, start with caution. Eye tape is a proven first step, which is always well complemented by handcuffs or Wartenberg's bike.
At the beginning of your perverse journey, there is an acceptable spice that will start a discussion
If you are at the very beginning, do not forget a safe word. This will prevent mental or physical harm.
Traffic light colors are ideal. They do not spoil the atmosphere and can point you in the right direction. Green means that what your partner is doing is great and that you do not have to stop. Orange means that the exercise no longer suits you, but you can still manage it for a while. And red means the game ends immediately.
2nd Step to BDSM
What am I really like and how do I work with it in a relationship?
There are many ways to define a BDSM relationship, and it's up to you to choose.
Do you want to be active only in bed? Do you want it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week? Have you found that you like both positions and like to change them? Would you just like to go to joint events?
Communicate!
Distribution of sexual roles in BDSM
Dominant, dominatrix (dominant partner, top) - the one who leads; superior
Submissive, subordinate (submissive, bottom) - the one who is led
Switch - the one who likes to change roles
Pervert - anyone who deviates only slightly from the normal roles defined by companies (this term may / may not be used as an insult)
Vanilla - a person with a simple sex life
Pistachio - A person prone to BDSM
3rd Step to BDSM
Discover what this world has to offer!
Are you an extrovert?
There is a huge community in the Czech Republic that organizes public and private events where you can meet new people and new practices.
Are you an introvert?
BDSM is a spectrum where everyone can find something for themselves. Physical, psychotic or game combinations of both. The most common practices you may commonly encounter or even buy toys are as follows:
Practices and terms in BDSM
Bondage
Western style, shibari, kinbaku.
Before tying up, I recommend attending at least one seminar with an experienced teacher and always having scissors on hand! Never tie your neck.
Spanking (slaps)
A popular practice for its simplicity in the beginning of the game, when all you need is an object and your own hand. Gradually add beating equipment to find out what works for you.
I recommend trying each toy on yourself first. A whip, a hollow, a reed or a ruler, each toy hurts differently and causes other bruises or bruises.
Never hit your head, lower back or abdomen.
Degradation
A pun that can make you hot and hurt like hell at the same time. Therefore, even here it is necessary to prepare and communicate in advance, when you explain what is and what is no longer right.
Is "dirty whore" too much, but "my slut" excites you beyond recognition?
Say it!
Role play
Doctor, patient and skin piercing? Policeman, criminal and handcuffs? Teacher, student and spanking? Complement them with suitable clothes and create a great atmosphere!
Even though a large part of the public still has little idea what BDSM really is, they still condemn it and are outraged. BDSM is not an unhealthy deviation and it is not just about cutting someone. It is important to understand that it is more about the attitude or style of sexual gratification of both partners that is not right to condemn until you try it.
